"Confidence is key. It's an accessory you should never leave the house without."
Feeling completely inspired by these past couple of few days of ingenious tweets I've been having, and because I'm actually in a great mood I decided to do an inspirational post. I'm going to be a little diva for this because I don't think you can write about confidence in a modest way. You need to be ruthless - so that's what you're about to get.
Pretty much every self-help-relationship-y book will tell you that confidence is something that attracts people to you, and I completely agree with that. To me, there's nothing sexier than confidence (Besides, like good common sense. Because a lot of people lack that). However, I think that your confidence should come from within, not from what someone else tells you. If you're truly confident in your self, it'll show. It's when you doubt yourself, and you second-guess yourself that people begin to do the same. Yes, everyone has something they can build upon and life is a constant journey of discovering who you are, but once you realize you have something going for you - work with it!
Everyone has something they're good at and it's beautiful to see them come to that realization. Nothing tugs at my heart strings more than seeing someone who doesn't believe in themselves, whether it's their physical appearance, talents, etc. My younger sisters (14 and 9) are at that age when they're extremely caught up in what others think of them, and that's understandable. But believe me when I tell you that I am never the one to shoot down their dreams. I can be overly dramatic and gas their heads up (I'm known for asking them to whip their hair for me. Just because), but I do it because I want them to believe in themselves as much as I do. And even though they're twice my siblings' ages, I do the same for my friends. You have to love you.
Another thing: Don't get wrapped up in comparing yourself to other people. Even I have been guilty of that in the past. If you admire something about someone, do just that - admire it, don't copy it. Don't hate on it. And if it means that much to you, start making changes to get yourself to the point where you want to be. Just be extra careful not to loose sight of who you are along the way.
This post isn't to tell you to have a big head. To me the only thing more off-putting than someone doubting their abilities is someone being too full of themselves. You need to find a balance.