Since going through two moves, getting a full-time job, taking on my very own bills yet still relying on older, "wiser", and more experienced folks for some financial assistance I have come to terms with exactly where I am in life. I understand that I am not a girl, not a teen, definitely a 20-something female, but am I a woman? I feel like something should have happened to trigger my grown-ass woman realization. Maybe it will happen when I get married? Maybe when I have my first child? Right now though...not quite there yet.
You might have Lady-Child Syndrome if...
- As much as you might think you know what you're planning on doing with your career, you still have no idea. You have a degree, you have a job...yet you haven't completely ruled out being an astronaut or professional food taster.- Traveling, of any kind, is an adventure to you. In fact, anything super-stable that may prevent you from doing that is seen as "holding you back". Can I live?
- Continuing your education is a way of prolonging being a student. Just admit it.
- Everyone around you is either getting married or having children. Everydamnbody. Even the ones who you just knew would never find love.
- The idea of having children or getting married is just about as scary as the thought of being kicked off your family's cell phone plan. So in a nutshell, there go your priorities.
- You'd prefer to be referred to as "an emerging adult" or a "woman-in-training".
This would explain why I love the hell out of shows like Girls, 2 Broke Girls, and New Girl...also, the fact that all three of those shows have "girl" in the titles is just a weird coincidence that I just now noticed while typing this.
I'm not complaining though. I'm still a very responsible young adult who is enjoying her youth but thinking about the future. I am in absolutely no rush for full-on adult problems. Am I using this "lady-child" syndrome as a crutch? Perhaps. But some of the things I've listed above don't apply to me as much as they used to and I'm starting to move past them. One bad-decision-turned-moral-lesson at a time.
Quite in depth, I like it:)
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HEY! gurl I love this post heck! i'm over 21 and feel like this! BUT you know what I feel like now but i'm still in college and living my life everyone does different things at different stages in their life.! check my blog :)
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I love the way you worded this!!! Your perspective explains quite well where I am myself and it's something I've been wondering about too.
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
I think I have that syndrome too..
ReplyDeleteI know for definite what I want to be... a solicitor, but i know i want to be something else afterwards. I just dont know what it is yet..
I am futhering my education, maybe because I wanna remain a student and hold on to my £2000 bank overdraft which is no where to be found.
But it is also because I cannot find a training contract. I got a job as a legal admin, so i want to keep my mind running so when I get a training contract, going back to education will not be so hard for me.
I am rambling on now..
missed you on here.. and I replied to your comment on my blog xx
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I think you nailed it. I went through most of it when I was in my twenties. Yet trying to come to terms with something.
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Stay a lady-child forever, well as long as you can. I can't even remember those days. I feel like an old lady. However I get to be a kid again sometimes with my kids. That's the best part. And why have you been gone so long? I miss you!
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't have a good excuse for why I've been gone so long :X I just suck! Let's leave it at that, lol. But I am trying my darnedest not to get caught up and neglect this blog again! :(
DeleteStay as long as you can as a lady child because once reality settles in, and you have more responsibilities, there is no turning back.
ReplyDeleteTrust me, if I could never grow up..I would totally be doing that lol.
DeleteGirl this was so fun to read! It took me back several years, for real! But just as the person before me stated, please enjoy your status as lady child for as long as you can. I look at my younger siblings in envy sometimes because they're still on my parents cell-phone plan and I want somebody to help me instead of them sometimes. Lol. All jokes aside, savor the moment, girlie.
ReplyDeleteSo glad to see you back blogging up here! Can't wait to read more from ya :-)
Haha...I thought you were talking about the actual Bible until I realized that this has nothing to do with religion. I about died when I saw it's a link to Cosmo. Well done, Nyah! We missed that sense of humor in the blogosphere this summer.
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of what you've written is also characteristic of being a 20-something...we're such a lost generation. How do you make your way in the world when you have the entire thing at your feet? Simple trial and error, I guess...but every adventure is a reminder that the clock is ticking and everyone expects you to 'get with it'...get a job, get married, get money, get kids, lose money on said kids, and die. Screw that. I want to live first.
"I want to live first" --- exactly! What's wrong with us living a little bit? What's the rush to get old all about? lol
DeleteI missed the blogosphere! I was getting to that point where I was like, "I already haven't blogged in a while...might as well be consistent by being inconsistent" lol.
interesting post! i wonder if im ever gonna grow up :p
ReplyDeleteThis is really interesting as Naka said. Sometimes I feel like this too, I wonder if I'll ever completely grown up but then I kind of like hanging onto some childish attributes too. xxx
ReplyDeleteLmao! I almost cried involuntarily at ” even the ones you just knew would never find love”
ReplyDeleteI think I'm teetering between this and womanhood. Some apply more to me *COUGH cell phone plan anxiety COUGH* but others don't apply at all.
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I have every single one of those symptoms! So glad to know I'm not alone!
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Andreaaaa! Oh how I've missed you :) and Tony! lol
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