Monday, May 14, 2012

Talking about my Generation

Two weeks ago my boyfriend graduated college and I couldn't be happier for him. Partially because it was high time he graduated that mofo, but mostly because he was ready to take that next step and it's an exciting time. I can admit that this time last year I was slightly envious of him. Yes, I was done with school but I wasn't going on to "bigger and better things". Not immediately, anyway. He still had his college security blanket, his close friends living a few feet away from him, and I was mentally preparing myself to go back to La Madre.

In fact, my bf wasn't the only person I was close to who was staying in school. I felt like everyone had an extra semester or year tucked away somewhere, and I couldn't wrap my head around it. But then something  happened. The summer ended, I found a way to move out on my own, got a job within my field and I never looked back. It doesn't happen all the time, but it does happen, folks.

Now that some of my closer friends have graduated (at last) I'm extremely proud of them, not only because of what they've accomplished but because their attitude after graduating is way more optimistic than mine was. I'm generally a happy-go-lucky kind of person, but even I can admit that post-grad life scared me. The 20-something's I've talked to about their recent graduations don't all have jobs lined up but they're prepared to work and market themselves. I think in a lot of ways this generation of young adults is thought to be self-concerned (true), self-centered (true), self-entitled (very true), but we can also be self-sufficient. There's no shame in going back home if you're working hard to get out, and if you're temporarily unemployed just remember that it's only temporary.

My best advice to grads who have failed to realize the above is this: stop looking for a hand out. No one owes you a damn thing. You've made it this far, so keep the momentum going.


  1. You've been MIA so it's about time you put up a post. We missed you! Congratulations tyur our BF! I can definitely relate to this post. I'm a college graduate and I've been out of school for much longer than expected and haven't started my career yet. But it was my choice to take time for my kids and further my education so I'm hoping to be a graduate again next year this time with the right career opportunities. It all pays off.

  2. I am finishing up this summer (internship) and I am *terrified* for the real world, but I know it will just take some hard work and dedication to find what I'm looking for.

    Congrats to your boyfriend and friends, and especially congrats to YOU for finding a job in your field and succeeding!

    Also, update more!

  3. I'm one year away from graduating and I honestly feel so lost. I've got no idea what I want to do, I feel as though there are so many options and ultimately I want to do what makes me happy but it's hard to make a decision.

  4. lol I love that! No one owes you a damn thing but yourself. Nhya of all ppl I should be stressed out my mind right now but I'm staying optimistic, lol I keep telling myself something will come soon. Real Talk! We're proud of J too :D lol

    - Gracie

  5. Congrats to your boy on his graduation! I have mixed feelings about our generation...there are a lot of diamonds in the rough, but there are some people out there who are just plain rough. You chose a really good picture for this shows that social networks are hugely important to our generation. They connect us, and they divide us. In the coming years, I think that people's experiences on the Net will shape their perceptions about life...including how they feel about graduating college and marketing themselves in the real world.


  6. I love your blog so much! This is a great post to read, particularly as I am in my first year of university and just about to finish it! It's all going so fast but I am so excited for the future. xxx

  7. Great advice for a graduate.

  8. Good advice.. i needed to hear that
    just a minute ago i was wondering why I do not have a job
    but i am gonna keep marketing myself


  9. Great post. I actually graduated pretty optimistic about life post grad and a year later, and no job in my field, i have to constantly remind myself that it's temporary.... a very (seemingly) long temporary.

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